Hi, BethJ, I read your post, I sometimes write long ones, too. You said outside of the Bible, you had a book that really helped you alot. What was it? I read the Bible and a book called Love Life for Every Married Couple. It is Biblically based and has a section called How to Save Your Marriage Alone, which is very helpful for my sanity. My H, too, still goes to church with us every week, and although he hears what is said every week, he still has a hardened heart. It seems like he never will obey the Word, I hope that is not the case. I am trying all I know how to keep us together, no nagging, giving the affection he said was lacking, never arguing about petty things, giving in to him when a decision needs to be made, anything I can think of to make him see that I have changed, and will not go back to the old ways of behaving. He is having an EA, he says they are not having sex, but who knows? He has gotten very good at lying. He also says he has ended it, but he said that before, and was not being truthful. I see how an addiction to gambling is another outside enemy to overcome, and wish I knew of some way to help you, but other that shutting off the internet or getting him counseling, I can't think of what would help. Any addiction that takes a H's attention away from you and family, whether it be ow, porn, drugs, alcohol, gambling are something he would have to want to stop. Maybe you can find someone who first hand knows how hard it is to stop gambling, who could help him. Good Luck. L
