Simple Question

[MariS]

Journaling with a Question.

WAH-MLCer made it by last night & I drove us to dinner, my treat. He did look tired & admitted he was through out the evening.

Positives are; I think we had a nice time. He did not drink alot (1 cocktail 2 wine). WAH-MLCer talked about friends, a little about what was going on w/him, etc. The "filler" stuff that I had on my goals.

Negative was when he said he was meeting with an attorney at 10am today to help with that warrant/traffic thing.
My mind immediately went to a bad place, going oh no, are you meeting with the one who filled the papers that you have yet to serve me? (the ones that I supposedly don't know about)

Plowed on through the rest of the meal & drove us home, to relieve MIL from babysitting. WAH-MLCer sat on sofa & I sat down. He said, "please don't take this wrong, but I am going to go home, I'm tired" as he was standing up to leave. He also asked if I was not going to give him a hug now (I was still sitting). I replied I was, but needed to get up.

Guess I should not have said he was welcome to stay, no obligations, but I was confused. AND to make it worse, he took his pet w/him. The one who has been sleeping w/me since the separation. I hate it when WAH-MLCer calls his place home, it puts a knife through my heart every time I hear it.

Did confirm, we would see him in the morning to take child to school.

Now as of this morning, WAH-MLCer has been a no show again, just like last Friday. I called, but cell was turned off. Left a message on his office stating I really need to know by X time if he is not coming & I would appreciate if he would extend me the courtesy.

Still no answer.....

Is my WAH-MLCer regressing back into his tunnel?

I so badly want to ask him soooo many questions, but know shouldn't.

Advice?