I am reading along here, and I want to share with you part of a post from the SSM board, written in response to a man who is sufffering from self esteem issues:
"Pick up David Dieda’s “Way of the Superior Man.” I found it very helpful because he puts a different twist on things, stating that a man’s primary purpose is not his woman, but his personal objective, whatever that might be. His commitment to his woman is in sharing his success and happiness with her, giving her the gift of his accomplishments, his confidence, security, compassion."
I understand how hurt you are by your H's actions, but maybe he was in such a bad space that he went "beserko" trying to define his essential purpose. He has to get some bearing of himself as a man before he can embrace you. In his state of mind, he has done a lot of damage in the process..only you can determine if it's worth salvaging. I'd be leary of getting drawn in by OM until you make this decision.
( now returning the thread back to BND and her stuff)!
