I think your husband's comments to you are a VERY good thing! He doesn't want to fall into a rut again - Good! He wants to keep the R exciting, fun, fresh - good! I know I would prefer that too, and I'm not in MLC. You see those old couples holding hands and kissing, sparkles in their eyes. Don't you want that too when you are still together 40 years from now? Of course you do, but you're tired right now. Kids, doctors appts, Xmas shopping, bills to pay, house to run - geez!
So here's my assignment, for you to ponder: What would you need to have happening in your life, to be able to nurture that "sparky" feeling inside yourself and keep it fresh? Now that you are moving in a different (Yay!) direction in your M, you need NEW strategies. I know you have employed some of these (getting Brazilians is just one I know about!) But when you are tired and have too much on your plate it is hard to be creative. Your H is saying, let's keep our M creative. Let's invent new things, let's surprise each other. Let's take some risks! So two things: What strategies do you need to take on, to open up the space for you to have fun and be creative? And then, what creative things and new ideas and surprises do you want to throw in the mix? What would be fun for you to invent?
You are the best, BND. First thing you need, take a little time for yourself today. Pamper yourself, and also take a breather. Then everything will start opening up. There is nothing to fear. It's all good news! Rejoice. Sing a song. Dance. Take a long luxurious bath. Some things for you today, BND. And it will all fall into place. Hugs to you
PositivelyListening ************************************** When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. - Helen Keller
Hugs to you 
