I am sorry your H will not be making it home for Christmas. I am sure that is a a little sad, but you are on such a good track right now, it really is OK in the big scheme of things. I am thinking, what can you do to make H included and feel special even though he can not be there in person? Can you make some digital photos of you and the kids around the tree and send them to him on Christmas? Or do one of those satellite phone calls where you can see the person while you talk? Or send him a really special package that he is to wait to open on Christmas day with all of you on the phone together? Something to support you all. And what is the official coming home for good and all day? That is something to look forward to!
I know you are probably sooooo busy with holidays and all your kids, but if you have a chance to check in on my sitch this month in particular, I'd really appreciate it. I am having a bout of "I don't know what the h*** I'm doing" and meanwhile H feels more distant and unpredictable than ever. So your thoughts and experience would really help me right now.
You are an inspiration BND. I am so excited for you. I hope this Christmas is the best year ever for you. And it is, truly. Your new R with your new and committed H. No matter where he is, you can feel that even through the ethers. What a blessing.
PositivelyListening ************************************** When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. - Helen Keller
