Catching up per your request! Sorry I didn't follow your thread before, but now I am!
I think your story sounds great so far. Perhaps at some point you thought you were going to have to continue writing the next chapter by yourself. Cool thing is, you and your H are writing the next chapter now... Cool - very cool.
When we are hurt or left behind - it is easy to start second guessing everything. During your fun and exciting tenure as an LBS ( ), you were trained to look for signs that your H would come back. Noticing things for what they were, what they seemed, or even looking at it from the opposite side. You learned a lot about yourself and how you contributed to any problems you may have had. You learned that you cannot control your H - that the only thing you can control is yourself.
As you move forward - this is no different. You still have to take care of yourself and realize you cannot control anyone other than you. Perhaps now you can recognize any early warning signs if you see yourself doing more of the same or if you sense problems arising. It is hard to forget that your H left....Time will heal this wound. But you can only control you. This includes controlling your own thoughts - not overanalyzing or stressing out. Our minds are such a wonderful thing - but they can also play tricks on us if we focus on something enough. Remember, the only way you will have a happy R with your H is if you are happy. You can't be happy if you are stressing out. So continue to focus on your happiness. I for one think you are doing outstanding!!!!
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God Bless,
Santhony
PS: I agree with Sherman about saying "I need you to listen to..." or "I need help with..." Remember your H may try to "fix" regardless. Maybe it is easier if you spell it out.
), you were trained to look for signs that your H would come back. Noticing things for what they were, what they seemed, or even looking at it from the opposite side. You learned a lot about yourself and how you contributed to any problems you may have had. You learned that you cannot control your H - that the only thing you can control is yourself.
