I'm sure you're having a wonderful weekend, as you so richly deserve! I hope that H is treating you like a queen!
I want to thank you for your recommendation of "The Solo Partner." I received it a couple of weeks ago, and I flipped through it right away. However, I thought I would give myself a break from R stuff and look at me stuff. Anyway, I picked it up again last night and read about pursuit and distance--what a revelation! I was the classic pursuer. When I looked at the characteristics of the Pursuer, there were very few that didn't fit me. And guess who I married? Yup, a Distancer.
This has given me some insight into what I need to do now:
1 - back off on contact again, incl responding to his contact. He knows I like and love him, so I'm not afraid of sending the wrong message. It might just shake him up a little.
2 - Look at the Pursuer list again, and see in which ways I am still like that. I have grown and changed a lot, but I must resolve this before I start a new R, be it with H or anyone else.
Thanks so much, Nicola
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