BND- I just wanted to address one part of your recent post. Have you read the book "Love and Respect" by Emmerson Eggerichs?
Quote: Yes he listened but he tried to solve the problem for me and he told me that I need to basically pull myself up from this and be grateful for the things I do have.
Maybe he feels somewhat guilty because of the situation I am in and for now he can't do anything.
But I came away feeling like a child and I don't feel understood.I want my feelings validated. I want him to see that I am lonley and I am tried of being the strong one all of the time.
In the book, Eggerichs talks about men wanting respect and women wanting love. One section actually talks about men wanting to help women 'solve' their problems when women really only want to vent and be validated.
Might be helpful to you at this point to check out this book as it may give you some added insight into your Hs actions right now.
