Hi Always, I have definitely missed you, glad to see you here.
Quote: ....but trust that someday soon you WILL get that reassurance that you are BETTER (duh) than OW. Right now, I still think it's hard for him to talk about, let alone admit. I still think he's dealing with a lot of guilt, and he needs to work through that. So, don't take it personally.
I really like your perspective on things because you always seem to see it from H's side. H does not want to talk about the A (in fact he still denies it) and definitely doesn't admit to anything. I am sure that he feels a lot of guilt and doesn't want to hurt me. Because he is such a loving person I also think he is having a very hard time hurting OW. I do not know who broke it off with whom but no matter, he misses her - this I know without him even telling me. The fact that they work together bothers me a little but I am learning to let go of that.
A date night would be good. My friend/neighbor, althouth the same age as me, has much older children therefore there would be no babysitting tradeoff. On the other hand, my brother has a 2 year old so I might have to work somehthing out with him. The problem is; because we both work 6 days a week, we really have a problem with not spending time with our kids; Catholic guilt I guess, but never the less asking someone to watch them so that we can have a romp in the sack seems very selfish.
It looks like I an going to have to get really creative.
