I know it's hard...all of this is. I guess my point is this:
You already have the upper hand. It's up to you to do and learn the things that will make you feel more empowered as a woman, as yourself. When you can feel that way about yourself, then you can focus your attention on finding ways to reach out to him. It may take some serious creativity and mind-stretching, but you can find ways to work with your circumstances. It's your choice--let the circumstances tie your hands, or use them to your advantage.
Sometimes I have to just sit and brainstorm. See how many crazy ideas you can come up with...waking for a shower at 2:30 a.m. or setting up a little "breakfast party"...the sillier the better. The more out-of-character, the more likely you'll find that 180 that you both need.
