I've followed your thread for awhile, but haven't posted. I've fought the physcial R prob with my H for years, and while I wouldnt call us sex starved, I havent felt wanted/needed the way I'd like to either. PL has a GREAT point here about exploring who you are and being that person. When H and I were separated and I got the ILYBINILWY, I had the typical weight loss, self improvement, etc. Now that we are back together, I'm finding it's even more important that I be who I really am and not get complacent about it. He wasnt sexually attracted to that comfortable Mom in sweats.. he was attracted to the sexy woman in me. I'm just now figuring out what that means for me, and it's helping my self confidence tremendously to express my femininity in a way that fits..IOW, being a vixen makes ME happy too so I don't need H to validate that as much by showing he's attracted to me constantly (and I understand you're talking about more than just feeling attractive to your H). I just put on my version of sex goddess and assume I'm irresistable, and surprisingly, it's worked wonders (this week at least!) Men love a woman who are confident in their looks and sexuality. It's in the attitude and the approach. I have timidly approached him for physical intimacy and he sensed my insecurities I'm sure, and was reluctant to "deal" with that at times. I'm slowly learning to just get in there and take it if you know what I mean!
Men love a woman who are confident in their looks and sexuality. It's in the attitude and the approach. I have timidly approached him for physical intimacy and he sensed my insecurities I'm sure, and was reluctant to "deal" with that at times. I'm slowly learning to just get in there and take it if you know what I mean! 