Quote: He seems to be resentful that he's doing what he thinks is required of someone that loves his family and provides for it. He's growing and leaving behind some of the luxuries and excitement of a more youthful life. Eventually he'll begin to see the fun you two have together as exciting - right now it just doesn't compare to the affair he's given up.
He does seem a little bit like a martyr, doesn't he? Like look at me I am so good, giving up my wonderful fantasy life for our family. He places all the blame on me and makes me feel bad about myself as a result of it.
He won't go to counseling or read books or talk about any of this with me without getting pissed off and defensive. I wish he could see that the loss of passion happens in ALL marriages when you are trying to juggle a career, small kids and a home. Sure, I know I rejected his advances more times than I can count and our sex life prior to the bomb was less than ideal so I am not making excuses. What I do think is that now that the kids are older things could improve, but alas....he is no longer interested. I cannot compete with the OW
