Quote: While my H was involved with OW he flat out told me that he wasn't attracted to me. That hurt alot and I cannot forget that he said it, even if he no longer feels that way or doesn't even remember saying it, that seems like a huge barrier for me.
I have heard this too - but the fact is that it's their reflection in your eyes that they're not attracted to. Don't take this as a permanent thing - once he's in a better place, he'll see you differently too (unless you become what he's made you out to be!).
Quote: Talking dirty...that is just not something we do/did. I am uncomfortable taling about sex at all. We are both kind of shy about it.
Practice makes perfect! Maybe this is a 180 you should try - this might bring out a side of you that you don't even know exists! The more you shy away from things the more inhibited you become - explore, experiment - wake him up a bit.
Quote: Maybe he is truly happy just being friends and anything else turns him off. If that is the case I'm afraid we are both headed for a very unfulfilling life; one of which I really have no interest in having.
Have you really tried everything else yet?
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
