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WAS have affairs because they think they know the future, think the M is over, and think you're the problem. Now, we may be part of the problem in our M's...in fact, we almost always are...but THEY are the problem in THEIR lives, and the more they go off and try to solve the problem just by either distancing themselves from us or finding the "magic person" who's going to make it all better, the worse they get.

All of a sudden, those great feelings in the beginning are doused by the cold water of reality from dealing with OP's who have some serious problems of their own.



TL, it's funny you should say that. From what I know OW has loads of problems, supposedly that is why H talks to her, to help her with her problems (Remember, he has never admitted to anything more than that).

Anyhow, he probably did get that dose of reality after the infatuation wore off and decided that I wasn't as bad as he "imagined" I was.

Yesterday he was home from work early again which leads me to believe this is his normal time since his paycheck never changed, therefore he must have been spending quite a bit of time with OW this past year . We went to our S5 preschool Thanksgiving play - very cute. Then later in the evening we took the kids out for pizza and had a really nice time talking. (No kiss goodnight, barely a hug) This morning he was about to leave for work then backtracked into the bedroom to give me a hug, he turns his face away so I am forced to kiss his cheek.

I am so frustrated. It all feels so forced like he is hugging me out of obligation, like I'm his mom or his dog.

Should I plan something crazy for this evening? Put on music in the bedroom, light candles, rose petals on the bed and get all sexed up for him. I'll have to find something for the kids to do to keep them distracted.

Any thoughts on this approach?