Mamabear,

I know EXACTLY what you are feeling & saying.

The betrayal is the worst & more so when children are involved (IMO).

Yes, it does seem unfair that our Ss are not having to win us back, but life is not fair & we are dealt what we are given. Please realize that they are ill with demons that we can help them with. We can pray that God will help them though...

Give yourself persmission to have a down day, that is the roller coaster ride you & I are on. Just remember, that the sooner you are able to forgive H, you will start to feel better about yourself. It is a feeling that you can control & gives you internal strength.

A month ago, I had the opportunity to tell my WAH-MLCer that I had forgiven him for his A. There were tears in his eyes, but no words forth coming. However, it gave me a huge sense of peace & a burden being lifted.

Hope you can find it too, but it will take time.

Hugs!


MariS

"Going for the Gold & not the Booby prize"

Become the change you want to see.....

Me - 37
WAH - 35
child - 2yrs
Separated - August '06
Married - 10yrs, Together 18
Not feeling WAH's internal struggle - Feb '08