TL, Thanks for the response. PreA H was always the one to initiate with a lot of turn downs from me. Not to defend myself but we have 3 small kids and I was exhausted and my self esteem was very low from being overweight. (Good news though, I lost 25 lbs. on the LBS diet)
I initiated recently. The timing just never seems to be right. We work opposite shifts. Our S5 ALWAYS ends up in our bed. Up until recently our golden retriever also slept in our bed (a few days ago H put up a child gate to keep her out). Our children are very insecure in light of the past year and never let Dad out of their site. The last time we ML (after I purchased a lock for our bedroom door) the 3 of them stood outside banging and crying to get in. We do not have, nor can we afford a babysitter. We can sometimes use my brother but he is very reluctant and then we feel bad about it.
So, TL, being that you are a man, how should I approach all of these obstacles? H goes to bed earlier than me, sometimes before I even get home from work. I usually have to seek him out and give him a kiss goodnight. It doesn't seem like he wants anything more.
If I were to bring this up, what could I say that would not put him at the defensive or hurt his feelings?
