It's frustrating. I think the thing that drives LBS's crazy is we start to feel like we can never talk about it at all, and will never be able to. One thing I started doing was scheduling talks (among other things) and try to increase the time between them. That way my W didn't feel like I was going to blindside her, but I felt like I was still important.
Another thing that does is give you time to collect your thoughts and be very choosy about HOW you discuss things. Instead of it being an impulse, and too emotional, accusatory, etc., it ends up being more constructive. At least, that's how it works for us, but that's what my wife responded to the best, sometimes you have to try different things and see what works best for both of you.
Hey, I also know what you mean about other people hitting on you. It's really bizarre but I've been getting way more attention from women in the last 2-3 months than I've gotten in a long time...some indirect, some shockingly direct. It's disturbing, really...even my W has noticed and it's hard to tell whether it bothers her or not. She acts like it does, but I'm not sure she's sincere.
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
