Quote: have you both had "the talk"? Have you authentically shared what you'd like to see to feel loved, and ask him what he needs to see from you as well?
This is something that I plan on doing this weekend when we have time together.
Quote: What are some SPECIFIC behaviors on your part would you say that make him feel uncomfortable either being around you or giving you what you need and want?
Probably the biggest is that I am inconsistent. I'll do good for 3 weeks, then I either get impatient or I get the cell phone bill and I go off on him. It's sick and needy, I know. He is probably walking on eggshells around me, wondering if this is the day he walks in the door that I will have a tantrum. Really, when I step outside of myself and look at the big picture I am still very controlling and self-centered. I am all consumed with my feelings and happiness. I want everyone to like me, even at work. This is unrealistic, especially since I don't particularly like everyone. I have to try to find my inner happiness and not rely on others to feel that way. I'm sure it goes back to my childhood of never feeling good enough or living up to my parent's expectations, but people can change, right?
