You need to put your kids first, no if's and's or butt's.
Tell your wife, NO SLEEP OVERS. you have no idea who the hell that man is, and you need to know that your daughter is safe,
if she does not like it to bad! You need to set boundaries, DO NOT let her walk all over you with this bull crap.
Your kids are number 1 even if that means getting poor little wife upset! tell her she can hurt you all she wants if that is going to make her feel better, but you will protect your kids not matter what.
They come first you are the only stable parent they have right now
get the tears out, and then get the game face on.
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