I don't think you're starting your own MLC. I just think you taken all the crap you can. we get so focused on one thing (saving the marriage) that in the process we can drop our standards and absorb mass quantitys of abuse, bluring the line at times to what is acceptable behavior in a marriage.
Then this wonderful thing called "detachment" happens. you wake up one morning, or maybe just hear one too many lies and "Poof" you start to see a possibility of life without pain, getting cheated on, lies, abuse, and then you stop living and dying on thier every word, thier every action.
obviously everyone here on the boards first choice in all this madness is to save our marriages. I think some are meant to be saved. I also think some need to end. when one party turns abusive and is cutting a path of destruction a mile wide, then maybe thats a sign to chart a different course. That old song "Unanswered prayers" comes to mind. one door must close so another can open.
<What I'm going to write next might get me in trouble w/ a lot of people here on this BB. The other day I met this woman. Perhaps I'm going the same way as my WAW. But just being around her was so amazing. No thinking of WAW. I slept well for the first time in more than 8 month. I felt good about myself. Nothing happened, I'm not sure if I will see her again. But just the thing that somebody else was interested in me showed me that life WILL go on, w/ or w/o WAW. I guess I needed that. To get over the depression. I know what some will say, BANDAID. And if I meet her again I don't know what I would do. But I actually might not care about WAW. That's what I meant w/too much detachment. Now I'm selfish>
I completely understand. and no, you're not following the path of your WAW. totally different situation. it's a great feeling being shown some interest after miles of rejection.
