Well, despite everything I wrote here and all the advice I got, I'm doing a compromise.
I told W that I'm not able to get her the amount she wanted. But I'm willing to take a home equity line BUT only give her half of the credit limit and I take the other half. So I will keep what I'm responsible for and she will get some cash (about 1/3 of what she was asking for) to survive in this area.
I will also pay her CS and alimony, but we will need to agree on the amount b/c of other costs like child care...
She seemed to be ok w/this and also wants me to stay in the house we own together. Now I have no idea why, but she was even willing to 'agreements' to make it possible for me to stay. Very strange since we tried for over 4 months to sell the house and a big change for her since about 3 weeks ago where she still wanted to sell to get the cash. And W doesn't seem to be fixed on D anymore either. Can't explain and not going to try to either. Could probably change anytime.
I just would like to stay for my D5 if possible. And allow W to be able to live here as well for the same reason despite the high cost of living.
Otherwise I seem to detach too much lately. Since I'm pretty sure about her second OM I don't know if I even want her back. Certainly not now.
