I know you posted to my thread but I wanted to come by and say thank you for giving me another perspective to my sitch. I truly belive that your advice and perspective has helped me enormously in my goal to forgive my H for leaving. Like I said in my thread- I have not forgiven him for the A. I will but it's too soon for me. The wound is healing but it's not closed up yet. It will leave a scar but after a while it will fade with time.
I really do want to forgive H.I don't want to forgive OW. I know this is wrong to say but if I could go back and un-do everything I ever did for her I woud do it in a hearbeat. I will never come to accept her and I will never do anything for her again. I can forgive H but not her.
I have a questions for you- do S's that have A's see the R with their S as no longer existant therefore it's OK to have an A? Do they really see any wrong in what they are doing? And if they do what is it that makes them continue?
I have been pondering this for a while- it's part of the forgiveness table of contents.
Eric,
you give me hope that S's do come around and they can be better than ever. I have hope that if things do work out for me that it will be better than ever and all of this will be worth it.
