Quote: For example, something that really means a lot to my wife is helping her cook dinner, or do dishes. I don't really have to actually do a lot, it's just a matter of being in the kitchen with her.
Same here. This has been one of my 180's that had a major impact. In fact been doing this every day for two months, then one evening after diner I just wanted to relax and read a magizine that came in the mail that day, and her anger came back and went off on how things were back to the old way again!!
From then on, I stayed in the kitchen with every evening.