Hi Eric It sure sounds like you are on the right road. I don"t know if I should be here, I have been in newcomers for 4 mos, and never get any responses, so found this sight.H and I just had 24 yr anniv, things were tense for the first few months, h thought he would leave, but as I db'd, tension eased and he is still here. We go for c, but hte big thing that h said last week was he doesn't have the feelings right now, as there were things that I said, and assumed that have hurt hm. I just did not realize till now that that is what is wrong. I have all but come right out and accused him of "something" going on with a coworker of his.I still feel like they are too close for just a friendship, but for the first few months he continually assured me that there was nothing, she has problems (drinking, now going through her own d), but I assumed, snooped, hoping that he would just confess, and we could move on. I guess I pushed too far, as in March, he totally went cold, the ily stopped, the touching, everything. We started c, and as of today, we talk more (but only day to day stuff)i read dr, and have really changed, I still question if there is an ea with her, but I feel like I have hurt him, and doubted his trust. I don't know how to mend all of it.I haved prayed for forgiveness, but he also needs to know that some of his actions have hurt me too.
sorry, I have been rambling here, but it is so great ot read about something good, and the hope that it will be pieced back.
