Quote: A basic tenant of DBing is not to have relationship talks and I have been good about doing that. The thing is I have never initiated relationship talks. My wife always has initiated the talks, usually when she is at her witts end.
In Michelle's book DR, there actually two levels of DBing described. Techiques to use when only one partner is working on M AND techiques to used when both want to improve the R in the M. Because of the vast amount of people arriving to this board are of former, much of the advise given relates to it, but the arsenal of DBing tools are much less restricted when both partners want to work at improving R. OR talks should not be avoided but actually encouraged, but with ground rules established first to minimize the risk of them turning bad.
Reread DR with a new perspective that both of you are willing to improve R. I'm sure you will be able to pick up on something new.
