I crave and want so much to have her look at me with admiring eyes full of welcome. To have her proud of me. It comes back to my own struggle with low self esteam and relying to much on the reflection of myself from others as my source of self esteam. It is this craving for admiration that fuels my constant battle against being a work-aholic
That quote particually hit home to me. My H did not have an affair all though I always saw his work as the "other woman." It bothered me that his office was his "safe haven" away from us. I never gave him the acceptance he needed and craved and he got that from his employees and collegues. I remember once in an argument that I told him, " you want me to put you up on a pedistal like they do at work, but win lose or draw I love you jsut the same." What I think he really needed was more of my appreciation and understanding of his motivation. Not my blind aceptance, which he saw as uncaring. Does that make sense? It is good things are going well for you and it is great to hear the "other side" Thanks!~~Bonnie
