Damn, Eric, what you said about talking about the "ickies" really struck home with me.
I'm not sure if I hid some of this stuff from my wife because of pride, fear, shame, trying to protect her, or whatever. All I know is by my doing this, I unknowingly put a wall between us that she came to resent. I never let her in to the "real me".
It took work on both of our parts to change this. It was, and is, well worth the effort.
It takes a lot of trust to really open up to another person, and it takes a lot of trust for another person to be able to open up to you. But I guess that what a deep, meaningful relationship is all about, right?!
I think that this board, with all of our anonymous friends, is a great place to start, but it definitely can't end here.
JJ
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