Just read your post Eric. I hope that your W learned something when you shared this site with her. I am interested in her thoughts. I told my H about this site and he asked me why I thought I needed it. I do feel I can talk to him about anything and I can and do open up to him. But the thing is he really wants to put the A behind him and he feels he can't do that if he continues to have to talk about it. I too want to put it behind us and I am doing so but this place helps me do that. I can share my thoughts,feelings and ideas with people who understand,have been where I have or they are there now and they truly care.
I think it is hard for a lot of men to express their inner most feelings. I know my H is one of them. He has always had a hard time discussing feelings. He tries and he has tried even harder since his infidelity. That helped me a lot that he was able to sit down and tell me exactly how he was feeling at the time he did what he did. It's good that you are trying to talk more to your W. I am not condoning your A because I know first hand how horrible the pain is when you are betrayed. BUt I also know that it is possible to forgive infidelity and in time the pain does lessen and you can move forward in your R. If you are truly sorry for what you did and you are showing her you can be trusted and that you will never hurt her that way again,I hope and pray that she will finally find peace inside and can truly forgive and move forward.I wish you both the very best and if she needs someone to talk to see if she would be willing to post here. My thoughts and prayers are with you both. pfroglady
