Just and FYI.. The DR book is way better than the DB book, in my opinion. Much easier to read. I read the DR book first, and then the DB, and I really couldn't read thru the DB very well. Just too much extra info that's not really necessary for us.
So definitely get DR!!!!
I think that is a good idea about having a plan on whether or not your H decides to go with or not. Even if he does decide to go to OW, you've still shown yourself that your going to have a good time, and you can be fun to hang around and you don't have to have him to have a good time. He'll be more curious about that.
Good luck, and try not to act down about him not wanting to go if that's what happens. I wonder what would happen if you just pretended to go out alone to begin with? Like, be getting ready looking all hot and sexy and don't ask him about the evening or anything and then just tell him, well I'm headed off, you have a good evening okay?... that is, if he's in his normal depressed mood. And then maybe he'll say, I thought we are both going out? and you'll say, oh, well your always not feeling up to going out on these nights, so I thought I would just let you stay home instead. or something. Just an idea. my H would have probably gotten mad at me or something, but who knows, we've never had a date night!
Good luck though!
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
