Just wanted to pop on and tell you I'm thinking about you. This does suck. For me, I was the one who cheated in our relationship and everyone has told me to cut ties with OM. I can't imagine having him over for dinner - unless I wanted to set him up for a huge confrontation! LOL You are a stronger woman than I am - but I have to ask..... is it disrespectful to you, that he wants her around still?
Also, about the agreement thing - my DH is doing the same thing. Telling me I'm only with him because he's comfortable, he's the father of my child, etc. = but I don't agree with ANY of that as a reason I'm with him.
I sat down a week ago and wrote out what I love about him - not just those things, but so much more. It's in a small journal notebook thing - and I left it on "his" bed...
He said thank you, that I didn't have to do it - and later told me that he so wanted to come into our bed and tell me everything would be ok. But he didn't.
Just this week I made him a "card" (good thing I was working at work HA HA - this thing took all day ) and CD's with songs that remind me of us right now....again, thanked me for them and said I didn't have to do that.
I just keep telling him - well I wanted to -- or just not answering that at all.
Anyhow, not to take over - just wanted you to know we're thinking about you, pulling for you and hoping for the best.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
) and CD's with songs that remind me of us right now....again, thanked me for them and said I didn't have to do that. 
