Just a short vent... it was such a mistake to tell my mom about this situation!!! I thought I needed the support and owed her a reason why I've been so distant lately, but it's making it so much worse. She starts crying every time I talk to her, and wants daily updates on how things are going. Uuuuugh. Anytime I mention something positive it's met with her totally dismissing it and wanting to know all the ways H has hurt me since we talked last. I try to change the subject but she won't let it go.
She never admitted ANY responsibility in the problems w/my dad and also never really dealt with any of it, and now I think she's reliving it all through me or something. I didn't think it was possible but she's actually making the situation worse with her negativity and anger. She can't seem to stop herself from 1. ranting about "b!tch face" (EA/OW) and 2. bashing my dad. every.single.time I talk to her, and after repeatedly asking her not to. I think she wants me to be suffering worse than I am or something. Now she's trying to time our meeting up for the concert tonight so that she doesn't see H, and convince me to cancel the big family Thanksgiving completely (it's one of the few things coming up H and I are working on together and looking forward to, other than the OW trying to invite herself). Great... <sigh>. What a mistake.
Any suggestions are welcome of course but I mostly just needed to vent.
Last edited by NikkiB; 11/14/0610:27 PM.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
