EA, being "friends" with OW, and Boundaries

[NikB]

Hi Julie - thanks for your posts! That's what I thought you meant on the "agreement game," I just wanted to be sure. I will have to work on that. It's confusing balancing the DBing with keeping in touch with my own actual feelings.

On the budget thing - I totally understand what you mean about it feeling like I'm dooming myself. I felt that way when I started doing it, but felt SO much better afterwards that I'm glad I pushed through. I still get a little catch in my throat when I realize that 8 weeks ago I had no idea anything was wrong and now I'm figuring out if I can support myself, though.

Last night I ended up driving by one of the apartment complexes that looked promising if it comes to that. They were actually realy nice. I mean, nothing's like living in your own house that you love... but it was comforting to see them and realize I have that option.