EA, being "friends" with OW, and Boundaries

[S.T. _I Made It!]

My H said the same thing too during an R conversation. Said something like, you can't tell me your not miserable. I said (before I knew about DB) I didn't even know anything was wrong.

NikkiB... I'm kinda wondering if I'm missing something. Has your H told you he doesn't know if he wants to continue the M? I was thinking this whole time he's just been acting like this OW is the friend he's always wanted, not that he wanted to break up or anything, but you were just preparing yourself in case that ended up happening.

My H showed his anger too. I'm still not sure if he was in MLC, I mentioned that once to him and he acted confused like he didn't think he was in that. However, since he was having an PA, I believe that caused anger towards me. The comment you said about him being intimate the night before and then ignoring you the next morning... that almost seems familiar to me, but just can't remember for sure. It might be because he's feeling confused or guilty. I really hope this is not a sign of any PA, but just be prepared. Even if it gets to that, you can still win.

I still think that you are early in the game, and even though he has talked about how he's never really loved you, (my H said that too) you can still bring that back. He can't understand it now, or just wont understand, but Loving is a choice. What he might be feeling for this OW is just lust, puppy love, a feeling, whatever, but feelings don't last! Eventually that feeling will go away in time, maybe months, maybe days, maybe a year, but it will go away, and then that is the time you have to make a decision- Do I continue to love this person?.

You just have to continue GALing, and PA(? is that right abbr?) so you can show him that he can love you, and that he does love you and wants to love you.

I agree that you should not tell him you really love him. I would just let it go for now. Or you can tell him that you have made the choice to love him.

just my O.

I'm pretty tired, so I'll post later. Have a good week okay. And keep eating. Maybe try to eat yogurt, its reallyl good for you. Buy the Yo Baby stuff, it's organic and is made with whole milk and organic sugar, it's really good. Even though it's whole milk, you need more calories cause your not eating enough, so it won't hurt you at all!