EA, being "friends" with OW, and Boundaries

[NikB]

Thanks Julie! I’ve always hated rollercoasters…<sigh>. Guess I better strap myself in for this one though. What do you mean by the “agreement game” – did you mean me agreeing that I don’t love him anymore? I totally agree he’s going, at least sometimes, for the “suicide by cop” approach. Although he’s still so back and forth, it’s very weird. One minute I think he’s trying to piss me off so I’ll get fed up and move out, and the next he’s trying to comfort me from being upset, and then the next minute it’s like he’s trying to reignite the fire of our first dates. I know I see/hear so little of what’s going on in his head, I can’t even imagine what’s going on in there given what I do see!

Thank you for the baby steps reminder, too. I am trying to force myself to do at least one “nice to myself” thing for absolutely no reason every day. Even if it’s just sitting on the couch with the dog doing absolutely nothing.