EA, being "friends" with OW, and Boundaries

[NikB]

Just had to share the good news that I got us scheduled for MC next week. Hooray!!!! The C was highly recommended by Michelle Weiner Davis herself (I emailed from the DB home page and she replied). I guess the C attended some week long training with Michelle a few years back and has specialized in couples help for nearly 30 years. I didn’t ask her a whole ton of questions in advance because I know she’s “DB approved” and she’s also the only MC who’d call me back, but I really like her from the few minutes we talked.

I called to tell H and he sounded happy at first then sounded very worried, but I’m really hopeful it will be good for us. I have to share that I found it a little bit funny that the only night the C had free for an “after hours” appointment was the night that H usually goes out with friends (EA/OW and whoever else shows up, if anyone). H was adamant about not taking time off work for MC, so this was the only night we could go. I made sure to tell him it was the only night she could meet when I told him what night it was, but I wonder if he thinks I picked that night on purpose.

I can’t believe I’m so nervous – I guess it’s hard to finally face a lot of this stuff, but it’s a heckuva lot better than the alternative.