Quote: I know that I wasn't who i needed to be, after going thru my depression and having time to reflect. I wasn't at all bad, but there were little things. When I made my changes, he later said that he noticed this and loved how I was being with him. So I know that he was just saying that so he wouldn't hurt me.
That could very well be. I'm where you were - I know I'm not who I need to be right now, and I'm really trying to focus on that. I did call H on a few of his lies a few months back and he said "But that was only because I didn't want to hurt you" - so he does use that justification in his mind. The odd part was the stuff he lied about wouldn't have hurt me anyway - he had lied to me about EA/OW's relationship with her "boyfriend" (the married one w/the baby at home), so what he was really trying to protect was my impression of her. Once he realized I had very little respect for her anyway he told me the truth, thinking it would help me realize she wasn't pursuing my H. The twisted logic just boggles the mind!!
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
