EA, being "friends" with OW, and Boundaries

[NikB]

I swear I'm losing my mind today...I hope it's just the lack of sleep. Does anyone have any advice or thoughts on what happened last night, and now today?

H rarely calls me during the work day, even if I’ve left a message on his cell. If he does, it’s usually a short “business” call (i.e. “need anything from the store?”). Today I left a message about Thanksgiving and did he want me to reserve the turkeys and rental chairs – he not only called me back, but he wanted to chat about other stuff. Nothing real heavy but he apologized again for getting home so late and making me worry. He commented that his truck wasn’t nearly as comfy as our bed to sleep in, and told me all about his lunch w/one of his coworkers (a guy, and NOT EA/OW for a change). He decided not to go out after work – he was supposed to go “ski gear” shopping with EA/OW and then out to play pool with a group of friends - and he wishes things were slower at work so we could both go home early and take a nap together. He sounded tired but like a totally different person than last night and this morning. I'm so confused.

DBing will be tough tonight - I have ZERO energy to work on GAL, working on my 180s, any of it. Luckily I think he'll be too tired to care...maybe we can just take a nice long nap and pretend last night never happened. <sigh>