Hi,

Well it’s nice to be here creating a post in this forum.... Whew.... If anyone told me 20 years ago that marriage would be this much work I would never have believed them.

But there is nothing like marriage to force us to face our own imperfections and demons. (I had lots of both and still do ) I think the people who find this site and make the decision to work on there marriage have great courage. For in working on there marriage they must find and face there own imperfections and demons. In this process those that are successful also become more forgiving and tolerant of there own imperfections and those of there spouse.

I have not created or posted to my own thread for approximately 7 months. A lot has happened in that time!!!
It took along time for me to come back. In part because I was soo busy repairing my marriage, Trying to be a good daddy and an effective employee It was also painfull to come back and have the memories of the pain that I felt durring my dark time resurface.

So this new thread will be for me to share what has gone on in my marriage as many of the trials and tribulations and success that I can remember.

Maybe others can find value in my story. I guess in a way I also want to find a way to help others buy sharing about myself and my marriage and provide links to resources that I have found valuable.

I feel a great debt to this site, to Michelle and to so many people that helped me by posting to my threads or by posting to there own threads where I could learn from them. I want to give back and hope that in some small way I can benefit others. ( mostly by sharing my mistakes )

My marriage is not perfect there is lots that can be improved and I look forward to getting advice from others and the different views that an outside party can provide to my marriage.