My thought on the still friends thing, is that he has seemed to be excessively trying to make it sound like they are just friends, even if she's not hounding him about it. That's what makes me wonder. It's almost as if he's trying to convince himself that that's all it is. Like when he's just all the sudden saying he wouldn't kiss her cause she has a mustache...


I'm not a man, but I could see him having a "battle" in his mind.. because he's really enjoying the OW, getting so close but still trying to make it out as being just friends, and you KNOW that that OW is out to get him- I could be wrong, but it sounds that way to me.

Well, either way, it is good for Nikki to be prepared for the worst.

The car race example is sooooo perfect!!!! Keep doing that! Act as if and lets see how things change?

On the MC.. I'm really surprised that he would suggest that. My H didn't want anything to do with it, and still doesn't think we need it. oh well. So, I would definitely go for it. Michelles book talks about making sure the C is a solution based therapist. You may find out too, if it is better to have a MC that sees you both seperately first, I believe that is what Michelle suggests too, can't remember. It makes sense because there may be things that you don't really want to say in front of you Spouse because it may hurt their feelings, or your embarrased to say, or may start a fight. This way, the MC can see both sides and know exactly how each person feels without distraction.

I tried to go to that website, but it didn't pull up for me.

Keep up that motivation on getting your health back. It will take work but it will be totally worth it.

How is your diet? Your food intake can affect your body more than you think... Limit your sugar and bad fats, and make sure your getting lots of veggies and fruits.. use those as snacks throughout the day so you don't get hungry.

I did this mastercleanser diet years ago, it's kinda tough to do, but I felt so much better after doing it. Let me know if you'd like to hear more about it.

God Bless,

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."