I'm not really a young thing... OW and I are the same age. I'm glad you are feeling better today. Looking happy is good, even if it is acting 'as if'. Funny, you mentioned not doing the dishes... when we were first married, H always wanted me to snuggle on the couch and leave them in the sink. I always wanted to clean them up before the food dried. I'm practical I'm positive the OW could care less about the dishes. I have this picture of piles of them and clothing around their house, because neither wants to do them. ...go to your H! Screw the dirty dishes!!!
The female friend, sounds very much like she's out scouting about for her next Mr Ex. Watch out for her. She is dangerous. You need to help your H feel loved and desired by you, and give him complements,( that you really do mean). Cause she will be stroking his ego every chance she gets.
There is a post you should read about a typical OW. I'll see if I can find it, and let you know where to look. So very accurate, it's scarey. H's may be going through MLC, but, it's only when the OW happens around, that they are enticed to do something that they'd never dream of, or have the lack of morals to do, in the past. In the mean time, try to stay as positive as you can. You can still help or hurt the situation. I know some say that if he's going to do it, nothing you do will stop him. But, I'm not sure I agree. I know I made it worse, and easier for him to use me as an excuse to leave. It sounds like you can really help it, and are helping it, based on last night. So, keep up the good work! Once
