Thank you lilly, mary and glo (eric too for caring enough to let me know he read my story)
I think this may be where I belong. Lilly you gave me great advice and I am going to make patience my new mantra.He says (and I believe) he has no contact with OW, he even quit his job after 25 years to make sure. She lives in our small town and that makes me a little uncomfortable especially since I believe she moved here a few years ago to be close to him. (affair was EA for a couple of years and PA for a year) I will back off on the sex issue and the ILY issue and just be patient. I will act AS IF and go forward. It just sucks that we, the ones who have been so hurt have to continue being hurt and do all the work, or so it seems.
Thanks for the help. I hope you are all doing well.
