Lily definately summed it all up. I love the word COMPARTMENTALIZE. That is soooo true of them and definately what we all need to learn.
My H's MLC was evidently long (a couple years of being miserable so he said) and he didn't drop "the bomb" until he couldn't take it anymore. (4/13/02). no PA, but definately an EA or two, although he didn't see his "friendships" in that way. ggrr! they are so dense sometimes. slowly as we talk he is seeing things from an outside perspective. our "healing" was sped up by a few events...backs of his "new friends" turned on him...work injury that was serious (burn) but could have been much worse or fatal...lack of familial involement and concern during accident and healing process.
And even though all those things opened his eyes, I still walk the eggshell path, not sure if I'm doing things right or saying the right things. My weight was one of HIS problems with me. I'm trying, but he works away from home 5 days a week, so doing everything and trying to cook and exercise properly on top of it all just isn't possible. I do have to have MY priorities too. I can be SUPER WOMAN but I definately do not possess SUPER POWERS.
Hang in there. Stay here. Visit MLC. You will see your story, you will see your fears. We all have our fears that rear their ugly heads. We try to read their actions. It's a hard road. I know my H and I are doing REALLY well, but there's still alot of work to be done and the people here help to clear your mind.
