Lily covered it! Stay here in this topic, and also check out the Midlife Crisis board---you will be amazed to read your story over and over!
My H is back and gave up OW, but I'm in the same boat as you. No ILYs, he "cares" for me. At first said his effort was for our s's sake, but I realize now that's not the case. You should realize it, too.
That malarky about "NEVER" having loved you is just that---malarky he believes in order to justify what he did, which was abandon you! You'd be shocked at how many MLC men say those very same words! It's such a common symptom that I believe those words alone indicate MLC.
He never would've married you and stayed with you all those years if he didn't love you. He just can't be there for you now because he still has much to process. My c told me the same thing, i my H's presence.
Anyway, sorry you're in this situation, but so glad you made it here. I'm trying to lose weight, too...and, er, had my *last* hot fudge sundae tonight!!
I was trying to think if I was treating or MIStreating myself by eating it.
We must model to our H's we value ourselves and deserve good treatment...our job is to treat ourselves well!
