I know what you mean about your Anniversary. Ours was a month ago. Believe me, it will be easier to get through than you think. You may have a crying fit, but that is ok. Cry and get it over with. Then look to the future and picture what your next anniversary may be like, with or without H. Hopefully with H.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."