Quote: I am the one that is deemed as controlling because I had to make sure everything was taken care of.
Someone has to do it! And I think this is definitely a lot of the problem. I read in Dr. Laura's book that H's need to feel like MEN, like the provider, not like the kid. I agree with that, and most likely I made him feel like his opinion didn't really count. But truly, he didn't have any opinion when it came to any of those issues. I'm not sure where to go with that in the future. Perhaps I'll re-read that book and see if I can come up with some ideas.
And I know about remembering the bad situations. It's over now. And I have forgiven him--I hold no bitterness against him, or resentment for the 1000 times he wasn't there for me.
When these things pop up in my head, I turn my thoughts elsewhere. I'm getting much better at it!
Patience, patience, patience--we will make it through!
