I guess we’ll just start testing my resolve right away.
I was reconciling bank statements last night, and noticed that H has not been eating alone on his mini-business-day-trips to a town 80 miles from home. He has not mentioned it, but 4 out of 5 meals were definitely not enjoyed solo. I’m not snooping, just can’t avoid that fact when performing my financial tasks, as I have full responsibility for our finances.
I had been thinking that things were going pretty well for us…that he just had leftover emotional fallout regarding everything that went down this summer. He’s been distant the last several weeks, but coming home for some one-on-one once or twice a week.
He’s stood me up (for lack of a better term) several times lately, and again tonight. Called once today, said he’d be here at 8 p.m., no sign/sound of him three hours later.
I’ve been thinking a lot about what TL had to say to me, and I get that part of detaching is letting these concerns roll off my back. I also see very clearly that I have sole responsibility in creating the idea for him that he doesn’t have to worry about losing me.
Do I run the risk of shutting down any progress by distancing myself? Should I remain open and welcoming when he’s around, acting as if everything’s fine? I want to do this right. HELP.
