Not really sure where to begin with your threads...so I thought I'd make some comments and ask you some questions if that's okay.
The main thing in addition to his A's that I pick up on is his disinterest, so your expectations are going to need to be pretty low right now and that's hard, I know, especially when you want to feel loved by your S. Just gonna have to cowboy up on this one and GAL...that's what that's for...to keep you happy and give you something to do while the S is hot and cold.
Are you still in counseling?
If so, is your counselor trying to help you to move forward together as a couple, that is, focused on practical stuff, or is he/she trying to shrink your brain?
And, if you want him to notice you and pursue you (as a wife, not just as a sex buddy, although that's part of it), what do you know would get his attention?
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
