The thing I keep coming back to in all my thinking of the past day or two (which I know I have to get control of) is:
I've forgiven him. For all of it. I'm mostly at peace about the whole thing. The doubts that come are being dealt with. The past does not define us.
However, I am not willing to face a future R in which there is no real effort on his part, where we don't connect on a level deeper than the technical details of his job and hobbies, where there is no respect for me or the kids, where there is no acknowledgement of either of our feelings/needs.
I don't want to be treated as the ball-and-chain forever. I am worth a lot more than that.
So if I've always been the "pleaser" how do I change to encourage the changes I need in him?
