One of the things that I keep coming back to over the past several days is this: is H really using the separation to "figure things out", or is he too comfortable and just finding staying elsewhere (at his mother's house) a lot more convenient?
I asked him last night. Just put it out there--no pressure intended. He said, "Huh, I guess I'll have to think about it. We can talk about it later."
Sigh. Okay...
I know that making changes in myself will affect change in the R, but I need some help identifying what changes to make that will encourage him to do the hard work too.
He has made some big changes...stopped the near-constant traveling, is physically affectionate, etc (all of which I am VERY GRATEFUL for), but still isn't showing any outward desire to return home or make things right with God.
This could be my own judgemental nature taking over, as well as my impatience. But it's still there right now, rattling around in my head.
