Thanks for the encouragement Cat. Wow--cyber hugs feel almost as good as the real thing.
Here's my update on my sitch:
I think I’m finally getting what it means to detach. I’m getting better at consciously changing negative thoughts about H and our sitch. In some ways, it’s much less painful, this detaching thing.
I feel like we’re in limbo now, and I have no idea how long that will last, because the ball is definitely in his court. I’m doing my best to be open and supportive. I worry a little about doing this wrong, because I am a compulsively accommodating people-pleaser (always have been), and he can read me like a book. I’m not sure if or how I should change in that regard…wish I could read him so easily!
He is showing more affection now, and that feels great. I’m focusing on that instead of everything else that’s missing. I can’t analyze everything he says and does to death. It usually gets me nowhere anyway. So I’m choosing to just stay calm and be grateful for what I really do have. My prayer is that God will fill in the rest.
